By Kennita Leon
Serious relationships take lots of work, sacrifice, patience, and tolerance. And while the payoff is worth it, not everyone is ready to fully commit to someone else in that way. But how would you know if you are? These are the questions you need to ask yourself:
#1. Are you over your past relationships?
Exes are usually a sore topic because feelings like anger, lust, and sadness are still there. We’re not saying that you have to be completely over another person to be in a relationship (because there are some people we’ll never forget), but you do have to be at a point where your feelings for them won’t affect what you have going on.
#2. Do you have time for love?
Believe it or not, a busy schedule can get in the way of love. It can leave your partner feeling neglected and it’s often one of the biggest excuses people give for cheating. If you aren’t willing to make time for love, you’re not ready.
#3. How selfless are you willing to be?
Relationships are all about giving with very little taking and if you’re not okay with that, then your relationship is already doomed. If you do something nice for your partner and expect them to return the favor every time, you’re in for some disappointments. The challenge (and the goal) here is finding someone who is just as willing to give as you are.
#4. How much do you love yourself?
A wise drag queen once said “if you can’t love yourself, how the hell are you gonna love someone else?” and we have to say that truer words have never been spoken. We’re not saying that you have to have Beyonce’s confidence, but you should love yourself and appreciate your insecurities enough to not let it get in the way of love.
So, get some self-help books if you have to, sing some Ariana Grande and tell yourself that you’re worthy, every single day until you believe it.
#5. Can you be alone?
This question ties in perfectly to the one about self-love. If you’re in a relationship solely because you don’t want to be lonely, then it’s not for the right reasons, and it certainly won’t last. Sure, it’ll be great in the start, but if your true intention is to cure loneliness, then you’re not ready for something serious.